I’m really not in the mood to deal with the bullshit from Moffat stans now so I’m just going to write whatever’s at the top of my head in point-form.
- Queer-baiting is everywhere in the two shows. You said it yourself, Moffat “is playing right along”, to humor the viewers but never with the intention to have a canon gay couple. There is plenty of innuendos and implications of John and Sherlock being a couple, but Moffat is just toying with us.
- John and Sherlock being a couple is also treated as a comedic hook. It’s used again and again whenever he wants to elicit laughter from the audience. We’re meant to laugh when someone in the show implies that they’re a couple, and we’re meant to laugh again when they reply with a disgusted face that they are not.
- Irene Adler is a self-proclaimed lesbian but her sexuality suddenly changes once she meets a “good-looking, intelligent, intriguing” man. (I put those in quotation marks because I don’t think he is any of those things.) She becomes enamored with Sherlock, to the extent that her reasoning faculties are compromised. This reinforces the heteronormativity and the idea that lesbians are just waiting for the right guy to come and sweep them away.
- Can’t comment on Season 3 because I haven’t been bothered to watch it, but going by Moffat’s rep I’m not expecting anything better than the first two seasons.
- Again, homosexual people are there for comedic effect than to drive the plot on. We’re not interested in them for who they are: they’re only there to make us laugh.
- The Doctor kisses Rory in the dinosaur episode - for laughs. Rory responds with a face of disgust, and a guy-on-guy kiss is taken as unheard of and alien-like (something that the Doctor, who is characterized as having no idea of human conventions, does because he is an alien).
- Jenny and Vastra is a lesbian couple and that’s good for representation and all, until we look at how their relationship is characterized. There are constant (sometimes implicit) jokes about their sexuality. Jenny is sexualised and assaulted by the Doctor.
- Clara’s relationship with a girl was dismissed as a “phase”, again for laughs.
- We have an unnamed gay couple in A Good Man Goes To War who are described just as “the Fat One and the Thin One” because apparently being gay is so uncommon that there is only one couple made up of a fat man and a thin man. They’re not given names - they’re nameless entities, existing only for humor.
In sum, Moffat is a piece of shit, and I didn’t even address the racism and misogyny in the above points.